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Summary: Don't moralize, or point fingers. It will only hurt your case, and your children.
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Most states now have "no-fault" divorce. This means that the Court is not supposed to consider, and simply does not care about, which party did what. Period.
The Court is not interested in hearing about your ex's new boyfriend or girlfriend, their going out in the evenings, or their letting the children watch too much television.
Trying to make yourself look like the "better" parent by pointing fingers at the other parent will almost always backfire, and make you look petty and controlling. The only way your ex's activities are likely to have any impact at all on custody or timeshare is if they truly represent an obvious danger to the child's health and safety.
That means that as tempting as it may be, you should not complain to the Court about your ex giving the children fast food for dinner every night, about them letting the kids stay up too late, or even about what they let the children watch.
You do need a place to vent about this, and that place is your friends or family, or your counselor. But not the Court. It will only make you look bad, and make the Court sympathetic to your ex for "having to put up with you trying to control what they do when the children are with them," (even though that's not really what you are doing).
Focusing your energies on the things you don't agree with your ex about, or the things of which you don't approve, will not make your ex change their behaviour, and will only serve to make the Court unhappy with you. Use your energies and resources in more useful and productive ways, instead.
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