Write your children a special Thanksgiving or Christmas letter to read on that special day. The Thanksgiving letter could be a list of all the things you are thankful for, including the children. The Christmas letter could be about the best gifts you ever received-putting your children at the top of the list.
On those holidays when you are all alone, reach out to those children who do not have a father who cares about them. Your church or the Salvation Army can help you find these families. These holidays without the children can also be spent building your ties to your personal family of origin. Visit with your own Mom and Dad, and celebrate with them. It could be fun reliving your own childhood memories. The pain of divorce seems the greatest at these family holidays. But a divorced dad who anticipates these lonely days can turn them into celebrations of thankfulness and joy. Your children will thank you for the memories!
Waylon Ward M.Ed. is the director for the Dallas Center for
Fathering. He is a former football player for Texas A&M and a
licensed marriage and family counselor. He and his wife Lynn have six
children in their blended family.
This article originally appeared in Today's Father magazine, vol. 2, no. 4. Today's Father is a quarterly publication of the National Center for Fathering (www.fathers.com).
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